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More Spiritual than Religious?

According to a 2002 Gallup poll, 50% of Americans described themselves as “religious,” while another 33% said they are “spiritual but not religious”.


How do you see yourself?   …and why?

Use this section  to discuss:

-What draws you to religion? …spiritual guidance? …fellowship? …liturgy?

-What has turned you off? …doctrine(s)?  …clergy behavior(s)?


Mini-grants are available to United Methodist Churches that belong to the Upper New York Annual Conference.  To learn more, please visit.

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How to use this site

Welcome!    Please use this site to discuss our online Pilgrimage retreat – as well as  the information, programs and resources on the Never Too Old website.NTO home page 110712

Your questions and suggestions – as well as posts about your struggles and successes – are most welcome!

Use the menu at the top of this page to see what others are posting about the  Never Too Old topics  (e.g  Affording What’s Best;  Devotion and Worship; Finding More Love, Online Retreat)  Please comment on these posts  …or start a new discussion if you like.

Professionals (e.g., ministers, church leaders, social workers, healthcare professionals and senior service providers) are encouraged to contribute to this site.

Professionals may also wish to join more in-depth discussions and networking  about training, inter-faith programs, grants, funding and other topics at the Northeast Forum on Spirituality and Aging (NEFOSA) blog on Linked-In.

Learn to Coach Others

Coaching, or helping friends and family to make good decisions about wellness, doesn’t mean that you give them medical advice or a “professional” opinion.

Instead, it means that you encourage them to:

  • create an Action Plan to prioritize goals, measure progress and work closely with their doctor and other professionals
  • use the Satisfaction Skills to improve communication, reduce stress and find greater peace
  • find the help they need

Coaching steps

The best coaches motivate by setting an example.

Use the Being Your Best  booklet as your Coaching Kit.  Encourage them to follow the Four Steps.  Use the stories as discussion starters.  Set a good example by telling how these steps have helped you.  Ask questions to help them to be their best.

Take one of our online workshops to learn more.

Or arrange a customized workshop for your faith-based community or community organization.

Find the Help You Need

computer senior couple reversThe single best resource to find help for your medical, emotional, financial, educational and other needs is a simple phone number:  211 which serves 80% of the communities in New York State.

This United Way service and its website at:   provides information about thousands of national and local organizations to help  people of any age.  This includes services for: training, employment, food pantries, help for an aging parent, addiction prevention programs for their teenage children, affordable housing options, financial debt;  legal problems; support groups and ways of volunteering in your community.

For health related information, one the best places to start is

If you want to apply the Golden Rule as a volunteer, visit:  tomatch your interests and availability with a satisfying experience in your community – or contact your local church,

Welcome Pastor Brian and Barbara Bruce

I am pleased to introduce you to two colleagues who will be regular contributors on the topic of Never Too Old – and who share the leadership of the Northeast Forum on Spirituality and Aging (NEFOSA).

I hope you’ll find them to be as helpful and inspiring as I do.

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Barbara Bruce has been a friend and mentor for nearly 15 years.  She is an educator and author of ten books who has a passion for teaching about both the learning brain and a holistic approach to successful aging.  She and I are both associate directors of NEFOSA. 

“I believe  that the mind, body, and spirit are intertwined to make us who we are as  individuals,” says Barbara. “To that end, I consider all three in my presentations, books and  articles.”  Check out her website at

Read why Barbara thinks that “forgiving and forgetting are not the same thing” in Forgiveness, – posted in our menu under both Never Too Old  and the Satisfaction Skills.

Rev. Brian McCaffrey

Rev. Brian McCaffrey has been a Lutheran Pastor for 26 years and is currently Chaplain at LutheranCare in Clinton, NY. He serves as the chair of the Northeast Forum on Spirituality & Aging  which is a network of  various denominations  and individuals who believe that aging nudges us toward the  spiritual growth.

“I make a direct correlation between creativity and spiritual growth.” says Brian. ” I believe we enter into a partnership with Life / the Divine when we take what Life hands to us and we create something out of it.  In the process we get transformed.”

Brian will be contributing original articles, as well as reviews of resources he has found on the Internet, in bookstores and elsewhere.

Read Brian’s article on The Poetics of Aging, posted under Never Too Old, and tell us what you think.

The Poetics of Aging by Pastor Brian

The Poetics of Aging

The traditional view of aging thinks of it in terms of work: measured by whether work is present or absent.

I prefer instead to think of aging in terms of music.  Life has four ages, stages, or movements, just as a symphony does.

So, of course, aging as music, aging as poetics, is long overdue for discussion– Dick Bolles

The Poetics of Aging  – That was the heading in an e-mail I received.  It caught my eye

It turned out to be the name of a conference: Poetics Of Aging Conference: A Grassroots Gathering To Celebrate Eldership And Value Aging As The Basis For Depth And Wisdom (November 16 – 19, 2011, San Francisco, CA  —

It may seem an obvious insight that we all age, but there is a strong cultural bias against aging.  I am delighted whenever I encounter another positive perspective on the second half of life.  “The conference mission is to counter the mainstream understanding of aging as decline and/or disease with a more expansive, humanistic, and creative – that is poetic – vision and approach.  Together we shall create a climate where people share their awareness and creative expressions, while providing room for self-study and discovery.” The website led me to a fascinating paper by Dr. Nader Robert Shabahangi the founder of the AgeSong Institute ( — One of the many collaborators of the Poetics of Aging Conference) Continue reading The Poetics of Aging by Pastor Brian

Planning for the End of Life (video)

This three minute video descrbes why all adults should have a health care agent.

It is tells the true story of the choices that my wife, Kathy, faced before her mother died from Alzheimer’s Disease.


This video was made possible, in part, by grants from the Community Health Foundation of Western and Central New York and the Niagara County Office for the Aging. (And thanks to Jesse for his cameo appearance as “the father.”)

To give your loved ones peace of mind, instead of tough choices, please visit where you will find many helpful resources.

Please post your comments and suggestions.