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Join the Pilgrimage!

Thanks to Pastor Brian McCaffrey for a wonderful presentation to begin our  online retreat on the book: Pilgrimage into the Last Third of Life: Seven Spiritual Gateways.


Please  comment below on some of the questions we discussed:

  • What has old age added to your life?
  • How can you find wisdom, comfort and love in prayer?
  • What are your goals for the last third of your life?  …and what steps will you take this week to accomplish them?

These Action Guides offer practical tips to help you address the first gateway: Facing Aging and Death.

For nearly twenty years, I was what might be called a “home church” kind of guy.   Every Thursday night, my wife and I would gather with friends to discuss mostly Christian texts,  plus a  hearty mix from Buddhism and other faiths.  And a least a couple of weekends a year we’d go off together to practice meditation or have other spiritual adventures.

But I joined – and became increasingly involved in the Methodist Church – as I learned more about the “method” behind Methodism  I was especially impressed by the Quadrilateral.  It’s a balanced approach to finding “truth” in  religion that  considers four  factors: Scripture, tradition, reason and experience to understand more about God and wrestle with conflicting beliefs.

My friend, Pastor Brian McCaffrey who is one of my partners in this project, tells me that something similar to the Quadrilateral is found in most mainline Christian faiths.

The above links explain some of this.  I especially like the part about “the need is not to quell the conflicts, but to create an environment in which it’s safe for people to experience them, to wrestle with the ‘angels'”.

That’s the kind of environment offered now in many churches and in the workshops, groups and ministries that are affiliated with  Living Well.

Get involved, and help us make Living Well better!


'Quote' Post | By on May 28, 2013

More Spiritual than Religious?

According to a 2002 Gallup poll, 50% of Americans described themselves as “religious,” while another 33% said they are “spiritual but not religious”.


How do you see yourself?   …and why?

Use this section  to discuss:

-What draws you to religion? …spiritual guidance? …fellowship? …liturgy?

-What has turned you off? …doctrine(s)?  …clergy behavior(s)?


Mini-grants are available to United Methodist Churches that belong to the Upper New York Annual Conference.  To learn more, please visit.

'Aside' Post | By on May 27, 2013

How to use this site

Welcome!    Please use this site to discuss our online Pilgrimage retreat – as well as  the information, programs and resources on the Never Too Old website.NTO home page 110712

Your questions and suggestions – as well as posts about your struggles and successes – are most welcome!

Use the menu at the top of this page to see what others are posting about the  Never Too Old topics  (e.g  Affording What’s Best;  Devotion and Worship; Finding More Love, Online Retreat)  Please comment on these posts  …or start a new discussion if you like.

Professionals (e.g., ministers, church leaders, social workers, healthcare professionals and senior service providers) are encouraged to contribute to this site.

Professionals may also wish to join more in-depth discussions and networking  about training, inter-faith programs, grants, funding and other topics at the Northeast Forum on Spirituality and Aging (NEFOSA) blog on Linked-In.

Three Answers to Stress by Barbara Bruce

Will the only person on this planet who lives without stress, please raise your hand.

Stress: some is good, too much is dangerous to your brain.

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You have just entered the stress zone!

Because of, or in spite of, our present time and place, we are all subject to stress of one kind or another. Some stress is good. It prepares your brain and/or body to be on high alert and ready for what may be coming next. When a stressful situation occurs, your brain and body react by producing hormones – adrenaline, norepinephrine, and cortisol. These hormones increase heart rate and respiration, send more blood to skeletal muscles, dull pain, and stimulate the immune system. You become mentally alert and all systems are “go”.

However, if stress levels remain high for a sustained amount of time or if they occur too frequently, your brain and body suffer. Many psychological/medical studies suggest a large percentage of visits to the doctor’s office are due to psychological problems, often the direct result of stress. The way your brain perceives stress determines whether stress is experienced as a panic or a challenge. While normal stress protects the body in times of threat, prolonged stress may potentially damage both your brain and your body.

“All well and good”, you say, “Stress happens. What can I do about it?”

“There are several right answers”, she said confidently. First, in my classes I have people learn to breathe. (Did you know most of us don’t know how to breathe efficiently?) Right now, put your hand on your belly and breathe in expanding your belly like a balloon. Hold your breath for a count of 5 and slowly breathe out. This form of deep breathing is known to slow heart rate and reduce blood pressure (108/65 after a yoga/breathing class for me)

Running a close second is exercise (there is that word again). Exercise can reduce the experience of stress, depression, and anxiety. Dozens of scientific studies have demonstrated the relationship between exercise and the reduction of stress.

Three is meditation which promotes lower blood pressure and slows the heart rate. Four is caring relationships which help in creating emotional trust, support, and relaxation.   And five is caring for a pet which may provide significant emotional comfort that helps reduce stress (think purring cat).

Barbara Bruce is an educator with a passion for teaching/learning about both  the learning brain and a holistic approach to successful aging.   To learn more about Barbara, including her books and upcoming workshops, please visit:

Learn to Coach Others

Coaching, or helping friends and family to make good decisions about wellness, doesn’t mean that you give them medical advice or a “professional” opinion.

Instead, it means that you encourage them to:

  • create an Action Plan to prioritize goals, measure progress and work closely with their doctor and other professionals
  • use the Satisfaction Skills to improve communication, reduce stress and find greater peace
  • find the help they need

Coaching steps

The best coaches motivate by setting an example.

Use the Being Your Best  booklet as your Coaching Kit.  Encourage them to follow the Four Steps.  Use the stories as discussion starters.  Set a good example by telling how these steps have helped you.  Ask questions to help them to be their best.

Take one of our online workshops to learn more.

Or arrange a customized workshop for your faith-based community or community organization.

Find the Help You Need

computer senior couple reversThe single best resource to find help for your medical, emotional, financial, educational and other needs is a simple phone number:  211 which serves 80% of the communities in New York State.

This United Way service and its website at:   provides information about thousands of national and local organizations to help  people of any age.  This includes services for: training, employment, food pantries, help for an aging parent, addiction prevention programs for their teenage children, affordable housing options, financial debt;  legal problems; support groups and ways of volunteering in your community.

For health related information, one the best places to start is

If you want to apply the Golden Rule as a volunteer, visit:  tomatch your interests and availability with a satisfying experience in your community – or contact your local church,